Thursday, March 31, 2016

Blog Post 5: Am I A Still Tourist if I’ve Been Living Here for Two Months?



Blog Post 5: Learning To Know A Foreign City   

The City of Cape Town is situated in a circle around three main mountains: Table Mountain, Lion’s Head, and Devil’s Peak. If you stay close to these mountains, your personal safety is more or less assured. It’s venturing out into the horizon that gives you a face-to-face interaction with some of the famous crime of South Africa.
            The first time I got a real look at the city of Cape Town, I was standing against a guardrail on top of something called Signal Hill. Forming the “body” of Lion’s Head mountain, Signal Hill is a popular jumping-off point for paragliders. If you look straight up from most of Cape Town’s beaches, you can frequently see a paraglider sail gracefully off the hill and into thin air. It was a warm day, and though I wasn’t dressed for the weather, the slight change in altitude and the breeze made things comfortable. The view out toward the sea was absolutely incredible. No less incredible was the view of the city as it wrapped its way around the mountains. I think in that moment I felt as if I were standing on top of a giant map, staring down at a city that suddenly decided to make directional sense.

I was with a woman named Joan Rapp, a friend who, when they were both in college, had studied abroad with my grandmother in Paris. Just after the end of apartheid, she seized the opportunity to work at a previously segregated university as a liaison between all the universities situated in the Western Cape province. As we, two people who had never met before, stood staring silently out at the vastness of the bottom of the world, I took a deep breath and embraced the comforting silence. Joan was already giving me everything my grandmother had promised she would, just by bringing Signal Hill to my attention. 

Months before I left for South Africa, just after I had discovered I was accepted into the program in the first place, several of my relatives and friends suddenly realized the relevance of acquaintances they had living in the far off city of Cape Town, South Africa. So far, Joan is the only one I have actually met. And what a wonderful experience it was to meet her.

As we stood, Joan took her arm and made a sweeping motion along the buildings hugging the coastline below us. This area, she explained, was referred to as “Sea Point”. I realized as she said those words that if I wanted to get to really know the city I had been living in for the past two months, I should pay full attention. “Sea Point,” I whispered quietly in affirmation.

My visit with Joan was so much more informative than I expected. There is a rich, rich history within this country, and each new place I go has only further proven that. As I mentioned before, Joan first came to Cape Town just after the end of apartheid rule, and has experienced an incredibly broad range of political climates. In the car on the way from a small ice cream shop to our dinner reservation, Joan and I chatted a bit about the politics of South Africa. “It’s the worst it’s been right now,” she said quietly. Although I knew I had chosen to come to the city in a time of dicey protests and demonstrations, I was floored to hear that Joan thought things to be so bad.

 Shortly after my visit with Joan, my mom flew into the country with one of her friends from college. We began our adventure at Kruger National Park, a national park roughly the size of the Netherlands and situated in Mpumalanga, a province on the eastern side of South Africa. It was a fabulous experience, and we saw so many animals I had never imagined possible to actually see in the wild. But as our plane set back down in Cape Town, I remember breathing a sigh of relief. I don’t think I knew until that moment just how extensive this feeling of being at home in Cape Town had become.

I think the best part of my mom being here was twofold. For one thing, I was enamored with the fact that for the first time, I had someone who was truly and shamelessly interested in doing tourist activities. We rode in a hop-on/hop-off bus, went to a place called “World of Birds”, and I took my second tour to the Cape Point (the most southern place in the continent of Africa), and my second tour of Robben Island. Her hotel was even in a place called the V&A Waterfront, one of the most tourist-centered locations in the city. Created originally by the Dutch East India Company as a small port used strictly for trade with ships sailing to Eastern Africa and the Far East, the V&A has actually become an extremely developed place, housing a large selection of restaurants, trade shops, and a wide variety of marine tour centered activities.[1]

But for another, having my mom here reminded me of just how much I have adapted myself to make this place my home. In several blog posts before I have highlighted a common theme of wanting to know more about this place. For a while, I felt so lost in a sea of information. I felt as if I didn’t know this place, and that I never truly would. But in all the information thrown to me as I pretended to be a tourist with my mom and her friend, I found myself surprised at how much I did know. I think it’s safe to say that a lot of the information I received in the week I spent with my mom only supplemented the base of knowledge I had already formed.

I do know this place. I know it in a way that is completely personal and completely individual. And I think that’s the best way to know it.




[1] V&A Waterfront Cape Town, “History,” V&A Waterfront Cape Town. Accessed: 31 March 2016. 
            

Thursday, March 10, 2016

Blog Post 4: How to Find Yourself While Abroad (In the Least Cheesy Way Possible)

Before I left to go abroad, I knew that this experience was going to be a huge one for me. I was prepared to have some eye-opening experiences, and I expected everything about my life to change. However, I held fast to this belief that no matter what happened, I would stay the same. Sure, I would come home knowing a lot more about life as far as living it in a place completely different from what I was used to, but as a person, I expected that I wouldn’t need to change. I felt that I was already developed enough as a person to not need an abroad experience to help me change. But after being here for a month and a half, I've realized just how wrong I was to think that way. The change has been gradual, but when I look back at the things I’ve done in the past few weeks, I'm struck by how much has changed. I don't know if I've necessarily found myself fully, after all, I still have a few more months here. But I know I'm not who I was when I left.

So without further ado, here is a how-to guide about how to find yourself while abroad (as I've understood so far).

I know they say this to people nonstop before they leave, but as a person who is familiar with it, I can tell you wholeheartedly that you should not be afraid to be lost. I hate to be the confused American, but after my fair share of embarrassing moments, I can say that it is worth ten times more in experiential value to find your own way to a place or find your own way to do something. To try something with previous knowledge honestly feels like cheating the experience. (Note: this does not apply to everyday necessities like how to get food, or be safe, or do laundry. Take advice for these things!)

Get into difficult conversations. And I mean this in the sense of conversations with new people that are different from you, but also in the sense of new conversations with people you already know. Don't be afraid of awkwardness, because in my experience I have learned that awkwardness dissolves as long as you keep talking. The quickest way to ruin a conversation is to leave it.

Don't be afraid to try new things, but don't be afraid to say no, either. I don't know what it is about studying in a new place, but the opportunities will extend for you far outside the classroom. People have invited me to do all kinds of things, and though I’ve missed out on some opportunities, I've never felt more secure than when I’m doing something purely because I want to do it. I decided to do a bungee jump (Bloukrans Bridge, it's the highest commercial bungee jump in the world) a few weeks ago, and I've never been more glad I did something in my life. However, going into the trip, I was convinced that there was no chance I would ever do the jump. I planned to watch everyone else go, and then safely exit the bridge the way I came in. I made a split second decision to do the jump, and I ended up loving every minute of it. It was scary and crazy, and the decision was left purely up to me. And you know what? I'm so glad I didn't decide to do it until then. I didn't spend hours feeling terrified about a thing I wasn't even sure I wanted to do for myself.

If you don’t take pictures you will most definitely be sorry. And I don't mean that you should try to document every single thing that happens, or that you should focus more on documenting the experience than actually experiencing it. But I will say that memories fade, and they fade quickly. It's tragic but it's true. Take pictures so you can spark the feelings you had while taking them. And also because your family will probably be on your back about it.

And finally, keep your expectations almost entirely out of the picture. Not to say that you shouldn't have an idea of what you are getting yourself into, but I can say with fair confidence that whatever you think your experience is going to be is not what it will actually be. Don't expect things to happen a certain way, and don't be upset when they don't. Sometimes people forget what it is they are actually doing; they forget they are in a foreign place attempting to find normal. Take a deep breath once in a while. And take a good look around.